![]() He didn’t choose to wipe his own butt, so I did it, and I slapped him too hard. ![]() None of that positive coaching seemed to work on him.įinally, after a major emotional escalation for both of us, me feeling like I’m getting nowhere and needing to get back to work, I said, “You have two options: you can wipe your own butt, or I’ll do it, but then you’re going to get a smack and it’s going to hurt and you aren’t going to like it.” For 30 minutes, I coached him with encouragement that he could do it himself, and if he needed help, I was right here and after he had a turn, I’d take a turn. This particular issue created a straw that broke the camel’s back this morning. He will no longer wipe his own butt after using the toilet. He consistently is disrespectful of my body and daily I have to tell him multiple times that he’s not allowed to touch my breasts, but he persists with that behavior. Little things that he’d left behind, such as hitting, kicking, throwing, or destroying things when he’s mad, are now daily occurrences. Little by little, we’ve seen a huge regression in his behavior. My son is four-and-a-half years old and before the pandemic hit he was in Montessori and becoming very independent. On top of it all is the trauma of recent events, feeling unsafe at home for nearly a week, and our city having so much grief and recovery ahead. Our family lives half a block from the Minneapolis riots, and we’ve been navigating a lot from the pandemic, including working from home with pre-school closed, and now having tough social justice conversations. It has definitely been a stressful time for parents everywhere. I hope I am becoming a better parent as a result, but today I am certainly questioning that. I’m grateful for all your podcasts and support. It’s kind of long, so please bear with me, because I think all of these details are important: So I hope to offer this family some perspective and help. There are a lot of upsetting elements in this family’s life, and she notices that her son is being disrespectful of her body and seems to be regressing in other areas as well, and she’s resorted to hitting him, which she feels terrible about. Today I’m going to be addressing an email I received from a parent whose major concern is that her son, who’s four-and-a-half years old, seems to be showing what she describes as a huge regression. Hi, this is Janet Lansbury, welcome to Unruffled. She wants to know how to encourage her son’s developing independence “without resorting to negative and hurtful parenting tactics.” Janet offers her advice. This last issue recently caused a physical altercation which this mom truly regrets. Little by little, we’ve seen a huge regression in his behavior.” She describes a number of issues where she sees her son regressing, including hitting, kicking and throwing things disrespecting her body with unwanted touching and an unwillingness to wipe himself after using the toilet. ![]() “He was in Montessori and becoming very independent. A parent describes the stress her family has been experiencing over the past several months and believes her 4.5 year old son has been particularly affected. ![]()
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